The Misuse of Matthew 18.15-17 for Conflict Management, Airing Personal Grievances, and Institutional Control

Introduction  

In Matthew 18.15-17, Jesus says,

15 If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses.  17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector (ESV).

Is this passage about conflict management, airing personal grievances, and ultimately about institutional control, or is it about addressing sin, pastoral care of sinners, and a Christian community's purity?

The Text is about Dealing with Sin, Not about Conflict Resolution

This passage is used, rightly, to address a progressive approach to deal with a sinner’s sin in the church, mentioned in verse 17.  The progression presents an ethic of care for the sinner in which care is taken to seek the sinner’s restitution rather than condemnation, if at all possible.  By first approaching the sinner individually, gossip and overly zealous judgement is avoided.  By approaching him or her with two or three witnesses, proof rather than opinion is given priority, and a further opportunity to bring restoration is offered.  By seeking a judgement of the entire church, factional views are avoided.  More will be said later about the ethics of this passage.

Each step of the disciplinary action has Old Testament precedent.  The role of the OT at each stage, not just with the two or three witnesses,[1] needs to be recognized for a proper interpretation of the passage.  The Old Testament passages have to do with giving a personal warning to a person of his or her sin, establishing the fact that he or she has sinned in a legal context, and bringing communal restoration to the unclean person seeking to be cleansed or communal ostracism if the person does not.  Note that these texts are not about conflict resolution.  They are about stages of confronting a sinner with sin, preferably to bring restoration but also, if ultimately necessary, judgement.

1.     Individual Stage

The first step of the disciplinary process is to go to the person rather ignore a sin.  Jesus’ statement establishes that the one wronged should go alone to address the sin with the sinful person.  Similarly, God tells Ezekiel to warn a wicked person that he or she might repent and not die in his or her iniquity.  If Ezekiel does not do so, the sinner’s blood will be on him (Ezekiel 33.8-9).  This passage continues to say that the righteousness of a person will not save him or her when he or she sins, but a repentant sinner will not fall by his or her wickedness when he or she turns away from it (v. 12).

A textual problem arises in Matthew 18.15.  Did the original reading say ‘sins’ or ‘sins against you’ (ἁμαρτήσῃ [εἰς σὲ])?  As noted in the translation given above, the ESV reads ‘If your brother sins against you….’  The KJV, NRSV, NLT,  among other translations, also have ‘against you.’  The NIV, however, has ‘If your brother or sister sins...’ (without ‘against you’).  The meaning of the passage turns on whether we include ‘with you’ or not.  Is the passage about confronting a sinner with his sin or about how to address someone who has sinned against you?  The former reading has more to do with the pastoral care of a sinner, steps in church discipline, and attempts to restore a sinner.  The latter reading would include a concern for how to address personal grievances and conflict.  My understanding of the passage and my view on the textual issue lead me to understand the passage to be about the pastoral care of a sinner and not about personal conflict.  In fact, the issue is clearly stated as being about sin, and the matter of resolving differences is quite foreign to the context.  Yet the passage is regularly cited as a Biblical way to handle conflict.

The above reference to Ezekiel 33.8-9 as a background text to Matthew 18.15 would tip the scales in favour of reading Jesus’ statement as a statement about dealing with sin. The comment before that had to do with how to deal with one’s own sin:

And if your hand or your foot causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life crippled or lame than with two hands or two feet to be thrown into the eternal fire.  9 And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into the hell of fire (Matthew 18.8-9).

Matthew 18.10-14 then turns to dealing with the sin of others with the parable of the Lost Sheep.  One is to go after the lost sheep instead of despising it as God rejoices over a restored sinner and does not want one to perish.  Following the parable is our passage, Matthew 18.15-17, which, in context, clarifies how to go after a lost sheep, i.e., a sinner.  The context does not suggest conflict management or personal grievance.

Also, the parallel in Luke 17.3 says, ‘If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him….’  There is no ‘against you’ in the text.  Finally, a passage in the Holiness Code seems to explain the concern at this stage of dealing with an individual’s sin:

You shall not go around as a slanderer among your people, and you shall not stand up against the life of your neighbor: I am the LORD. 17 “You shall not hate your brother in your heart, but you shall reason frankly with your neighbor, lest you incur sin because of him. 18 You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the LORD (Leviticus 19.16-18).

Paul also offers this advice to the Galatians--probably based directly on Leviticus but also perhaps coming through Jesus' teaching (since v. 2 speaks further of fulfilling the law of Christ--i.e., loving one's neighbour as oneself [Lev. 19.18; Mt. 22.39]):

My friends, if anyone is detected in a transgression, you who have received the Spirit should restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness. Take care that you yourselves are not tempted (Galatians 6.1).

The textual problem in Matthew 18.15 must also be considered for the interpretation that Jesus is telling one to go after the sinner, not, more specifically, one who sinned against him.  The majority of manuscripts, including some (early) uncials, provide the longer reading of ‘sinned against you’.  However, we do not count manuscripts but evaluate them according to their strengths, paying attention to the excellence of individual manuscripts and to the explanation that accounts for the various readings.  In this case, two early, excellent Egyptian uncials lack the ‘against you’ (Sinaiticus and Vaticanus). 

Scholars are divided on which reading is likely.  For example, Craig Evans accepts the ‘against you’ reading without discussion of the textual evidence.  While he notes two passages in Proverbs that, he believes, support a general statement (3.12 and 25.9), he also notes T Gad 6.3: ‘Love, therefore, one another from the heart; and if one sin against you, cast forth the poison of hate and speak peaceably to him, and in your soul hold no guile, and if he confess and repent, forgive him.[2]  Thus, there is Jewish support for a word about forgiving personal grievances.  However, the Testament of Gad is not speaking about dealing with sin on the person’s part, only about forgiveness, and so fits better as a parallel for Peter’s question in v. 21.  On the other hand, Richard France suggested following the shorter reading, finding that the ‘personal grievance’ reading introduced in v. 21 is premature at this stage of the text.[3]

Explanations about how either the ‘against you’ (εἰς σε) or its omission might have arisen in the text both consider what scribes copying manuscripts might have heard being read to them.  The previous verb, ἁμαρτήσῃ, has a similar final sound to εἰς σε.  One could imagine one scribe omitting this or another adding it for the same reason.  Bruce Metzger explained that the decision of the United Bible Societies’ committee included considering v. 21’s similar εἰς σε.  Peter asks, ‘Lord, how often will my brother sin against me (εἰς ἐμὲ), and I forgive him?’  A copyist may have intentionally added ‘against you’ in the earlier verse 15 to fit with this further discussion of dealing with a sinner.  Equally, they noted, a copyist may have wished to broaden the text so it dealt not only with sin against one but sin in general.[4]  Thus, while the committee included 'against you' in the Greek text, they gave the certainty of the reading a low mark.  The current Greek text omits it.

Having considered the evidence and suggestions, I would, as already noted, follow the shorter reading as the Greek text is now rendered.  The strong, early manuscript evidence, the previous parable, and the other literary evidence tilt the argument in this direction for me.  On this reading, the passage is not about conflict management or personal grievances but about confronting a person who has sinned.

2.     A Second or Third Witness Stage

Then, following Jewish legal practice, other witnesses are to be called in if the person refuses to listen.  A charge against someone could not be established by one witness alone: it had to be established by two or three witnesses (Deuteronomy 17.6; 19.15).  This principle of justice was, for example, applied to murder (Numbers 35.30; Deuteronomy 17.6), but, as France notes, it was also applied to cases more generally (as in John 8.17; 2 Cor. 13.1; 1 Tim. 5.19; Heb. 10.28).[5]

3.     The Whole Church Stage

Finally, the entire church is to admonish a person over his or her sin.  Numbers 19.16-22 instructs the people of Israel how an unclean person is to be restored.  He may have become unclean by touching a dead person or human bone, and so he must become clean again.  If the man does not cleanse himself, he is ‘to be cut off from the midst of the assembly, since he has defiled the sanctuary of the Lord’ (Numbers 19.20).  This passage is similar to the instruction of Jesus in Matthew 18.17: it is about restoring a person or, if the person will not become clean, being cut off completely (ἐξολεθρευθήσεται) from the assembly (Greek: συναγωγῆς; Hebrew: qāhāl).  Paul applies this teaching to the case of a man sexually involved with his father’s wife (1 Corinthians 5).  The purity of the community requires a communal excommunication of a person who refuses to change his sinful ways.

The Misuse of This Text in Institutions

Having argued that this passage is not about conflict management but about the process of confronting a person who has sinned, another misuse of the text needs to be addressed.  The passage is not a text for how to resolve conflict in an institution where power, office, and work are involved.  That this passage is regularly cited by Christian organizations and institutions is troublesome.

The problem in using the text in this way is mainly when the passage is used as a way to engage a person in authority.  A manager, for example, might say that the Biblical way to resolve issues in the institution is to come to him with any complaints.  What this means is a person whose very job is at stake is directed to come personally to the person in power to confront him.  In Jesus’ directions, precisely the opposite relational dynamic is in view.  The person with power in the church context is the person who goes after the sinner to tell him he has sinned.  The sinner does not have power in the relationship.  Furthermore, the passage urges the person who has seen the sinner’s sin to go to him and not leave the situation unaddressed because, as the previous parable stated, God does not want anyone to perish and rejoices over a restored sinner.  The passage, far from being about conflict management or resolving differences, is about caring enough for others to point out their sins, and not doing so as a challenge to persons in authority but despite one’s own authority—for not being the sinner—in the relationship.

As I have elsewhere argued, Matthew 17.24-20.28 is actually an extended teaching on discipleship that teaches how Jesus’ disciples are to ‘become little’ or humble themselves in different ways.[6]  The chapter begins with Jesus’ saying that the disciples need to become like little children to enter the Kingdom of Heaven (18.3).  The shepherd is not to abandon the sinner but is to care enough for him to go after him (18.10-14) to point out his sin in order to try to restore him and so gain a brother (18.15).  When this passage is read in reference to conflict management and resolving personal grievances, it is turned into a very different sort of teaching.  The person going to talk to the other person does not go out of care to restore a sinner so much as in fear about whether a conflict can be resolved.  If he is urged on the basis of this verse to go to a superior in an institution, he goes with the heavy burden of voicing his grievances in the institution to a superior.  The already humble person in the relationship is humbled further in such a scenario.

Authoritarian managers, in particular, want to stop gossip which, of course, happens especially in abusive situations.  They also want to eliminate complaints, just as totalitarian regimes always oppose free speech.  Matthew 18.15 regularly gets dredged up in such situations in Christian organizations as a proof-text to stop people from speaking to one another, processing workplace problems, and figuring out together what needs to be done.  Gossip is, of course, a problem when speech is not used to try to rectify situations and does not have restoration of sinners as an objective (cf. 2 Corinthians 12.20).  That said, Matthew 18.15 is not about this, and it is certainly not a text to use to shut down speech, curtail grievances, and deal with conflict.  It is, as already argued, a passage about how an equal—a ‘brother’—should care enough for a sinner (someone now with less power in the relationship) to speak to him about his sin in the hope of restoring him to fellowship.  Yet it initiates a process that has the purity of the community in view as well, such that the sinner might be expelled from the assembly of believers if he does not repent.  No manager, pulling out Matthew 18.15, thinks that he should be fired if he does not repent when workers come to him about a grievance because such leaders think the passage gives them a way to control speech and conflict in the workplace.

Conclusion

Matthew 18.15-17 is so often treated as a passage about the management of grievances and conflict that reading the text as a way to address sin, to care for sinners, and to keep the Christian community pure must seem to be a surprising challenge.  This is, however, precisely what the passage says.  The passage is actually abused when it is used by persons in authority in Christian organizations to try to control speech and make workers reveal their grievances to the management.  The passage is turned into a burdensome passage that controls speech in the workplace.  Indeed, it is not a text putting a person in the lower position in a relationship in a further bind of going to an authority to confess complaints.



[1] R. T. France, e.g., only notes Deuteronomy 19.15 as background (for the witnesses).  The Gospel of Matthew (NICNT; Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 2007).

[2] Craig Evans, Matthew (New Cambridge Bible Commentary; Cambridge: Cambridge Univ. Press, 2004), p. 334.

[3] Ibid., p. 689.

[4] Bruce Metzger, A Textual Commentary of the Greek New Testament (London: UBS, 1971), p. 15.

[5] Ibid., p. 693.

[6] Rollin G. Grams, ‘Issues Facing Missions Today 22: The Disciples are not ‘Leaders’ but ‘Little Ones’ in Matthew’s Gospel; online at https://bibleandmission.blogspot.com/2014/09/issues-facing-missions-today-22.html.

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